I was whinging in my last post about boring sewing, and there were some very interesting comments about bloke sewing, sewing for other people, and how to make the project less boring, all of which I appreciated. What struck me though, was the very sensible question running through several comments, with maybe me reading between the lines a little, of "Why would I sew something for someone else, if I found it boring?.
I will try to stop whinging about the bits of sewing I don't feel really excited about, but I am unwilling to let the Selfish Seamstress have the last word on this subject, even by one remove. Her snarky hakui about sewing for loved ones, which is sort of funny in context, has been left on my blog as a comment several times by "anonymous" when I show garments I have made for other members of my family. I am not offended by this haiku being left as part of a fair comment on my whinging, but due to my previous exposure to the haiku, I am a little tired of it.
Along with probably every other person who has admitted in public that they like to sew, I have been asked by relative strangers to hem pants, make curtains, make garments and mend by lazy and opportunistic so and so's who think it would be a great pleasure for me to do this. I am not talking about this sort of sewing. "Hem your own damn pants" sums up my reaction nicely. Nor am I talking about volunteer sewing. I have made costumes for school plays, dance concerts and parades. This is not really appreciated, and I find it boring, but other volunteer work I have done, and most people do as part of living in a community is not really appreciated either, and tends to be boring or worse. I would rather sew the costumes than be the backstage minder for 59 noisy 10 year olds!
Mostly, when I sew for my family, I really enjoy it. Unlike the Selfish Seamstress, if I want to sew for a European size 32 ballet dancer, I cannot restrict my sewing to myself. Sewing for my family gives me a greater variety of flattering styles, fabric colours and fitting techniques to use.
I am sewing a boring shirt, with a not very exciting (although quite pleasant)fabric because it will make my husband happy. He will appreciate my time, my effort, and the fact that I made him something rather than buying it. This willingness to do mildly boring things for the pleasure of a spouse is a factor in a successful marriage IMO. I would like to point out that I did not make him a real shirt until we had been married for 15 years, a mere boyfriend would not deserve one yet! (Maybe a really easy t shirt...)
He will also be getting the paisley shirt, because I am a selfish seamstress too. Carol is quite right, blokes (at least my bloke) have no idea how fabric will look once it is made up.
A post without pictures is a bit dull. Here are some things my husband has made for me that I haven't posted on my blog before. I hope he didn't find them boring to make. I have a sneaky suspicion that he whinges less than me.
Sewing notions wall cabinet. The wide angle shot has made this look bowed.
Desk top sewing box. I asked for this one.The top trays slide across for access to the bottom of the box.